tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post4870880905037805372..comments2023-05-16T07:51:09.356-07:00Comments on Melanie Wadham: THE WOMAN IN MY LIFE.....MELANIE WADHAMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13189662377701940172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-28160870903943130382012-03-18T12:44:15.447-07:002012-03-18T12:44:15.447-07:00I just came across your blog and i'm doing a b...I just came across your blog and i'm doing a bit of catching up. First off I would like to say how sorry I am that you endured so much. I want to hug that little girl and tell her that someday everything will be ok. I want to protect her. So I'm sending you and your inner little girl a big hug. I was raised by a mother that has mental illness issues as well. I have not spoken to my mother for about 9 years and I will never have a relationship w/ her as long as either of us lives. She is more of an emotional and psychological abuser than physical. And was very neglectful But I do not feel love from her anymore now than I did as a child. So I want to tell you I completely understand. I grew up w/ an alcoholic step father who was mentally and physically abusive as well. It took a long time to come to terms and forgive them. I feel that just recently I've been able to put it to rest for good. We all have a path we must follow and we may not know why bad things happen to people. But I have God as a pilot in my life leading and directing. Without him I don't know what would of happened. It is by his strength and answered prayers alone that I am where I am today. I may not be a perfect mother. Lord knows I make mistakes. I'm only human. But I love my daughter more than anything.So I use my experiences as a child not to repeat the pattern and try and be the best mother I can be to her. For that I am thankful to my mother and stepfather because I learned what kind of parent not to be. I feel there are blessings to be had in even the darkest of experiences sometimes. I look forward to reading more of your blog. Thank you so much for sharing. ♥ God bless you, BethBeth C.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-34129479885206806632010-12-06T21:37:09.990-08:002010-12-06T21:37:09.990-08:00All things in life have a reason, and what ever th...All things in life have a reason, and what ever they are the help form us to change into a person that can give out to others what we have went through. We are the ones that can understand when a person talks about abuse. We ourselves who have been down this vivid road, can find healing by reaching out to others. For eight years I bottled up inside me the sexual, physical and mental abuse I went through with my first husband and went I found true love the second time I could not see it, because I could not trust, had this anger and self hatred against me. The second man was send by God to help me through and he waited 8 years for me to trust him. Now I have forgiven my Ex and only feel pitty for him, because he never has experienced true love. I have come to understand that everything that happens to you in life is part of who you are. <br /><br />Best Regards<br />LexiLexi Butler - Lexi Butler Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04216749330754959653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-7781329728487829422010-12-02T00:01:45.380-08:002010-12-02T00:01:45.380-08:00Just dropped by to say hi and send a big hug! I st...Just dropped by to say hi and send a big hug! I still find it unbelievable that, after every thing you have been through,and everything you are now involved with, you have time and space in your life to reach out to me. <br />I am truly grateful<br />JxJo Ashcrofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12498449344477320495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-75256520777352402942010-12-01T20:37:23.680-08:002010-12-01T20:37:23.680-08:00It amazes me every time I read your blog how you c...It amazes me every time I read your blog how you could have survived these nightmares and still turned into such a wonderful, caring person! <3 Thank you for letting us have this glimpse into your life!jorrensmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476629826250116424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-18410964047098894582010-11-22T04:05:39.257-08:002010-11-22T04:05:39.257-08:00Wow Melanie I can see why nobody has left a commen...Wow Melanie I can see why nobody has left a comment. You had a horrendous time. And talking about it so graphically is good healing work for you. <br /><br />I had an abusive mother also. I never had the support and love that a child deserves, so I can relate completely to what you say here, although my abuse was not physically violent in its nature. It was more of an insidious, emotional kind, a drip, drip feed that you don't even know is happening, because we are all programmed to love our mothers unconditionally no matter who or what they are, or how they make us feel.<br /><br />I have deconstructed the word mother, the word mum. I have done my work, and now, when I see a hallmark card that says "to the best mother in the world" I feel that I am the mother, and it doesn't rip me in two any longer. To do this I embraced mother earth as my true mother, realised that the idea of mother is just an idea, and that not many people are lucky enough to have that in reality. And I let it all go.<br /><br />It takes years to shake it off, to step away from it. And I did it so that I could be the best mother in the world, to my little guys. I have four now, three of them are girls. It is a testament to the work that we do that the children want to be here with us, and that we are the best mothers that we can be.<br /><br />Sending love to you. Abbywalk in beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736676456392153506noreply@blogger.com