tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post7123181809744903605..comments2023-05-16T07:51:09.356-07:00Comments on Melanie Wadham: THE UN-MOTHERED CHILDMELANIE WADHAMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13189662377701940172noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-40794318646438889702013-06-28T14:10:48.173-07:002013-06-28T14:10:48.173-07:00This is very helpful for me right now. Twenty feet...This is very helpful for me right now. Twenty feet from our window our landlord/neighbor, who hates cats, has trapped one of the small feral kittens we've been caring for since their mother brought them to our door for help. Our landlord agreed to give us a week to find a way to keep them together then arbitrarily trapped one. <br /><br />DH is over there now, trying to get the poor thing released. As it turns around and around in its cage its mother and sibs stand guard. Mother gave it a piece of meat through the cage. That gesture, primed by the dis-ease of the trapping, triggered exactly the phenomenon you describe so well. With all their challenging circumstances, mother being skin and bones no matter how much we feed (she gives the kittens everything) they have mothering. This man who advertises his masculinity by his hatred of cats refuses to see the family he's brutalizing. <br /><br />I never knew any such moments with my mother, only violence...the unknowing, unseeing violence of this "man." They are the same generation so maybe things are getting better. Why aren't parents licensed? And landlords? : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-80056254630730133892013-01-23T02:18:18.169-08:002013-01-23T02:18:18.169-08:00I've come back to read this again after a year...I've come back to read this again after a year or something because I've been struggling and feeling bad about myself. Thanks again wonderful lady for being someone who knows, who is like me. There is hope for all of usemma keevilnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-743922856612841212012-09-12T01:15:23.925-07:002012-09-12T01:15:23.925-07:00I was abused & felt unloved by my Mother as a ...I was abused & felt unloved by my Mother as a child & still as an adult (she went as far as saying to me at my Sister's Funeral "I wish it was YOU who DIED"). My mother does NOT exist in MY Life any more! Then there is my 1st Husband who Physically abused me, but I stayed because I wanted to FEEL LOVED! That never happened either! Now we come to my current marriage, I thought I had the PERFECT MAN! Mr. Perfect has been cheating on me for years & he treats ME like I'm the one who has done WRONG! I stayed because I wanted to FEEL LOVED! Since finding out about him cheating 6 months ago (yes that's right I was so BLIND I never saw it) he has treated me worse & worse by the day! Why am I still here? the need to FEEL LOVED! After reading your story I saw myself in there & REALIZED I'M NOT FEELING LOVED!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-87510476939885723982012-06-19T05:51:07.483-07:002012-06-19T05:51:07.483-07:00This IS on my way to WAS ME!!! Thank you so much f...This IS on my way to WAS ME!!! Thank you so much for this blog, to bad I had to wait 52 years to find it! LUV the writing!! THANK YOU Melanie!!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02255831772625113640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-69383347500091757742012-03-31T21:52:59.092-07:002012-03-31T21:52:59.092-07:00The internal mother you are sharing now mirrored t...The internal mother you are sharing now mirrored to me who I am during that moment of self awakening. I am blessed that my mom were given a chance to repay her negligence and rekindle our relationship when I myself become a mother. SELF LOVE and SELF RESPECT only happens when we are faced with our own goodness and worth as a person. It was only through love and kindness of others that we can learned how to love ourselves fully. And It is only in forgiving that we can also be healed of our own hurts! A new SISTER of you, here in the Philippines, Melanie!Ma.Cynthia Coronel Abaloshttp://www.facebook.com/macynthia.abalosnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-38859284007687813782011-11-14T00:38:18.399-08:002011-11-14T00:38:18.399-08:00thanks for not being afraid to share this, it feel...thanks for not being afraid to share this, it feels so good to know someone else has had similar experiences. I have to protect my self and not see my mother often but i keep going back like a moth to a light and keep getting burned and then i experience what you describe as collapsing... and its just happened again! It always happens when I feel I need some extra support and guidance and I forget that she is rarely capable of an encouraging or nurturing word. I get so upset,I dont like to keep bothering friends and partner with it because its such a strange situation to me but reading this has made me feel a ton better! Thanks so much xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-45612041526566543452011-10-10T11:21:35.587-07:002011-10-10T11:21:35.587-07:00Melanie, I just want to say that you have made me ...Melanie, I just want to say that you have made me see things in a different light. Thank you for sharing!!!!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16123411481644523238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-86388317006262429942011-07-13T06:46:44.646-07:002011-07-13T06:46:44.646-07:00Thank you for the courage and the gift of putting ...Thank you for the courage and the gift of putting into words a mirrored experience, it caught me by surprise and I welled up and it poured out but I now see that the light...is not a mirage. Words cannot thank you enough, you are greatly appreciated and I would give you the biggest hug of your life if it were not for the fact that I live in the UK. Katie x((HUG))xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-70011243836477318242011-06-06T22:32:31.430-07:002011-06-06T22:32:31.430-07:00Hi Melanie
Thank you for sharing your inner-most ...Hi Melanie<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your inner-most personal thoughts and feelings. What a journey you've been on, and will continue. There's so much I could say, but I'll say just this for now:<br /><br />When you think you should see things, and respond, like an "adult", and your "inner mother", just take a brief look at what your inner child says, instead.<br /><br />Thank you for connecting with me today. I appreciate you.Lina@MothersLoveLettershttp://mothersloveletters.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-20261349479598827222011-05-08T05:43:22.499-07:002011-05-08T05:43:22.499-07:00Thank You sooo much for touching me where I am !Thank You sooo much for touching me where I am !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-71588989870497367452011-04-25T10:17:14.732-07:002011-04-25T10:17:14.732-07:00I love Clarissa Pinkola Estes CD 'warming the ...I love Clarissa Pinkola Estes CD 'warming the stone child'. She is such a wise woman.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03104395523269130320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-460054671842058368.post-83035815917251065512011-04-13T12:29:09.477-07:002011-04-13T12:29:09.477-07:00Amazing post Melanie! I am rendered emotional aft...Amazing post Melanie! I am rendered emotional after reading it. I am going to read it through again.....<br />Clairefsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.com