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Sunday, October 10, 2010

EMOTIONAL NEUTRALIZATION PROCESS



I know, Im late..... So sorry but have had a lot on my plate the last week. But here it is........

There are no quick fixes for emotional imbalances that require healing!!!  Healing is an ongoing process. However, there will be moments when we must do something to provide ourselves with temporary relief and release from negative experiences and emotions.

These suggestions are offered not as a quick fix, but as a process by which you can find temporary relief from the experience of a negative emotion.
Most things offered here can be done in sixty seconds and less.

IT MEANS YOU MUST BE WILLING TO TELL THE TRUTH AND NOT PASS JUDGEMENT ON YOURSELF OR ANYONE ELSE BECAUSE OF THE TEMPORARY EXPERIENCE OF A NEGATIVE THOUGHT OR FEELING.



WHEN YOU FEEL:


ANGRY:   You can,

  • take several deep breaths. 
  •  Give up the need to be right. 
  •  Forgive yourself.
  • Try to forgive the person who has evoked the anger. 
  •  Put yourself in the other person's place and speak to them, saying what you would want to hear under these same circumstances. 
  • Let your mind, heart, and words be tempered with love.


CONFUSED:     You can, 

  • Identify w hat you really want.  
  • Admit what you really want to yourself.
  • Do not judge what you want.  
  • Let everyone involved know what you really want. 
  • Identify what you perceive to be the issues facing you.
  • Make a plan to handle one issue at a time.
  • Write the plan down.
  • Follow it.

DISAPPOINTED:  You can,
  • Practice the truth.
  • Examine your intent.
  • Admit your true intent to yourself.
  • Admit to yourself whether or not you told everyone involved your true intent.
  • Forgive yourself for not being honest.
  • Make a new plan that will get you what you really want.
DOUBTFUL:  You can,

  • Breathe.
  • Suspend all judgements.
  • Pray for guidance.
  • Detach from the outcome.
  • You must practice patience!
FRIGHTENED/FEARFUL:  You can,

  • You must practice TRUST
  • Breathe deeply
  • Examine your expectations, that is, what you are expecting as an outcome.
  • Examine your intent, that is, why are you doing whatever you are doing?
  • Detach from the outcome.
  • Call on the Divine for strength, support, and guidance.
  • Remind yourself of everything you can be grateful about.
GUILTY:  You can,

  • Admit what you have done to yourself.
  • Admit what you have done to another person.
  • Examine your motives and the information.
  • Be honest.
  • Forgive yourself.
  • Ask the other person involved to forgive you for what you have done.
  • Explore ways in which you can compensate for what you have done.
  • Remain conscious of what you are doing at all times.
LONLEY:  You can,

  • Hug yourself.
  • Go to a quiet, open field or park and lie on the ground.
  • Remember those who love you and the times you felt loved.
  • Fill your heart with love.
  • Go and show someone some love.
UNAPPRECIATED: You can,

  • You must try to practice NONJUDGEMENT.
  • Examine your expectations of others.
  • Do something nice for a stranger.
  • Write yourself a love letter.
  • Appreciate yourself.

I trust that these suggestions will help with your everyday coping skills and equip you be stronger and more in control of your emotions.

Our next blog posting is about ANGER.
Yes, we all feel it, some more than others.  It is the response to built-up frustration, the experience of having one's sense of personal power denied or infringed upon.
Anger also is a result of loss.
So, how do you handle ANGER?, do you stuff it? Blast someone? do you lie to yourself and others, saying you are not angry when you are? 

KEEP POSTED.
Lots of love Melanie xx

2 comments:

  1. Thanks again, Melanie, for your wonderful advice.

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  2. Thank you, i found this very helpful.

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